“Sadly, there are still many communities where male homosexuality is still shamed and stigmatized,” Ley says.
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“A professional Dom told me that requests for spanking have declined as fewer children are now spanked,” Blum says.īut we haven’t reached this future just yet. This wouldn’t be the first time a cultural change has shifted the prevalence of a kink. Blum, MFT, founder of the Gay Therapy Center. “It’s reasonable to predict that its power to arouse will decline as fewer people are raised in a culture that demonizes gay sex,” says Adam D.
While there aren’t any data on the prevalence of people engaging in forced bi scenes over time, there may fewer people into forced bi play as the LGBTQ+ rights movement has progressed, and it’s no longer deemed as shameful to engage in gay sex as it once was in many parts of the world. “I think this supports the theory that the fuel in this fantasy is the taboo against male same-sex behavior, as female bisexuality is generally much less shamed or judged.” “Interestingly, the parallel, a female forced into bisexuality, is much less common,” explains clinical psychologist and sex therapist David Ley, Ph.D. Because our patriarchal society stigmatizes queer sex between men more than queer sex between women, men are more likely to be turned on by the taboo nature of a forced bi scene. “It is considered humiliating because it is male-with-male sexual activity, which still is stigmatized and considered taboo in our culture,” Kort says. “Sometimes the guys are gay or bi, and the ‘forced’ sexual activity gives them the opening to come out with less guilt and shame,” Kort says.īut according to Kort, the male submissive is often not attracted to the man-on-man action, but is getting off on the fact that he’s being humiliated-both by the forced bi activity, and the mere fact that he's being sexually dominated. It can also be a way for deeply-closeted men to engage in sex with other guys. Sometimes, it’s way for bicurious men to explore their same-sex attractions without labeling themselves. There are many reasons why a man might be into watching or engaging in forced bi play. Vincent Besnault Getty Images Why are guys into the forced bi kink? (The safe word should be something random and non-sexual, since the submissive saying "no" may be part of his "protest" against partaking in same-sex activities.) As with any time you're playing out a BDSM scene, you have to discuss boundaries and expectations ahead of time and provide aftercare once the scene is complete. In a forced bi scene, the submissive partner consents to the dominant partner "forcing" them to perform various sex acts, with a mutual understanding that play can stop at any time with use of a safe word. Forced bi is a form of consensual non-consensual play, often referred to as con non-con or CNC among kinksters. The kink may be called forced bi, but if you're doing it correctly, no one is being forced to do anything. Though doms and subs of different genders can also partake in forced bi scenes, they typically involve a male submissive and a female domme-for reasons we'll get into later. “In many instances, the ‘mistress,’ also called the ‘domme,’ orders him to give oral sex or receive anal sex." Even though the man is engaging in same-sex behavior, the domme is usually involved in some capacity the submissive may be kissing her while he is receiving anal sex, or she may be guiding his head while he is giving oral sex. In many forced bi scenarios, "a woman demands and dominates a straight man to engage in sexual activities with another man,” explains Joe Kort, Ph.D., certified sex therapist and director of The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health. The guy giving the blowjob may act like he doesn’t want to do it, or may even seem disgusted by the fact that he has to engage in “gay” sexual behaviors, but in actuality, he’s getting off on it. The porno may go a little something like this: A dominatrix dressed in all black is commanding a man (their submissive) to go down on another guy. If you've ever explored niche kinks on a journey down the porn rabbit hole, you might have come across a seemingly contradictory brand of BDSM play known as "forced bi"-i.e.